Christmas Won’t Fix It
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““Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.” ”
It’s about this time of year that I hear the call around the workplace, “I can’t wait for Christmas. I need a break!”
Sound familiar?
There’s no question that it’s been another big year. We’ve navigated some gnarly challenges. We deserve a break. We’ve earned it.
But Christmas won’t fix it.
In other words, you might get a break, but the underlying problem won’t go away.
What problem? The problem of continually running out of juice.
Most of us run our years like we run our cars. We drive on and on. We run the tank low. By November, we’re running on fumes. Then we treat the big summer break like we’re going to the fuel station: summer will refuel the tank full enough to get us back on the road for another year.
We say to ourselves, “Next year will be so much better!” Then we return in late January, and guess what? The relentless work is still there. And so is the underlying pattern of thinking and behaviour that we have to deal with the work.
And so the cycle continues for another year…
This is the infinite loop that I’ve written about in previous posts. The endless moving between excitement/exhaustion and reflection/boredom.
Break the Cycle
What would it take for us not to be hanging out for a break at this time every year? What if we could get to November saying, “Hey, I’m good. I’m looking forward to some time out for sure, but I’m not exhausted.”
Broadly, there are two possibilities:
The pressure comes off
We change how we deal with the pressure
Let’s face it. Option one is pretty unlikely, right? Which leaves us with option two. Given our endemic culture of busyness, that’s not necessarily an easy choice. But it is a choice.
We need a more sustainable approach. One where we break the infinite loop. One where we’re not driving a car, but perhaps instead tending a plant. For a plant to thrive, it needs regular feeding and watering, and its needs change throughout the year. The best gardeners are in rhythm with the seasons and set things up to work with them.
What do you believe?
What would we need to believe to run our years more sustainably?
Perhaps we’d need to believe that downtime is just as important as ‘do’ time. Then we’d make ample time for ‘not doing’, and learn how to use it well.
Perhaps we’d need to believe that doing our best work involves periods of discovery, not just relentless delivery. Then we’d make ample time for inquiry, for learning, and for exploration of ideas.
Perhaps we’d need to believe that we’re more in charge than we think of how we get to spend our time. Then we’d make ample time for the most important stuff and we’d say ‘no’ to things that don’t serve our purpose.
If we’re in a leadership role, perhaps we’d need to believe that it’s our role to create the conditions for people to thrive. Then we’d ensure systems and rituals are in place for people to be unhurriedly productive.
What might happen if we believed those things, and acted on them?
Let’s get rid of the story that all we need to do is hang on until Christmas. Let’s create a new story: one where we’re playing a longer game than merely the annual cycle of work, work, work, crash.
Ready to Break the Cycle?
What if, instead of limping to Christmas running on fumes, you could design a year that sustains you throughout?
I'm hosting a live webinar, along with my partner Gillian, where we'll explore how to create your own Life By Design plan—a practical approach to crafting a year that works with your rhythms rather than against them.
In my experience, the people who thrive aren't the ones who push harder. They're the ones who design better.
Together, we'll work through:
👉How to identify and design for what truly matters (and what doesn't)
👉Ways to build in renewal throughout your year, not just at Christmas
👉Practical structures that help you stay on track without burning out
This isn't about productivity hacks or quick fixes. It's about fundamentally rethinking how you want to live your life. We’ve designed this session primarily for couples, but, in reality, it’ll suit anyone serious about changing how they live.
It’s scheduled for 24 November 2025. Sign up for the Life By Design webinar now.
There's limited space because we want to keep it intimate enough for real conversation. If you're tired of the annual exhaustion cycle, let's explore what's possible.